Love is giving your everything to someone , regardless
This kind of stuck in my side. Yes , love should be giving yourself to someone whole-heartedly that is one of the most beautiful things about love, sharing things that you wouldnt share with anyone else.
It’s the “regardless” point I have on issue with…
Love is about give and take….yes take. I said it! People are too afraid to be selfish in relationships today. Especially in the queer community.
From my experiences of the lesbian dating scene , women (and I’m generalising here, I apologise now to those exempt from this!!) throw themselves 150% into a relationship from the beginning, in a very selfless act of pure devotion to their partner.
Otherwise known as the U-haul phenomena!!
This is great….however there comes a point where you need something back. You can only give so much before you’ve got nothing else to give…you’re drained; mentally and physically.
If you have someone who reciprocates your adoration then your tank is “refilled” and the relationship blossoms…
Its when you get a partner who just take take takes….and you, being blinded by your devotion, can’t see it , or don’t want to admit to seeing it. ( butch pride is a delicate thing! )
That’s when people get hurt and relationships turn into messy breakups/downs!!
I guess what I’m trying to say is that we should be reserved with our affections and emotions, until we are certain that we will get back what we put in…like a good investment plan!!
It sounds awful…but this kind of self preservation is the only way ( that I’ve found anyways ) that prevents people using and abusing your giving nature.
- Hold back on the devotion!
- Take off those rose-tinted glasses
- Be honest with yourself ….do you feel you’re getting back what you’re putting in?
- Don’t be afraid to be a little selfish!! Your happiness is just as important as theirs!